Actions are the only meaningful thing?
It does not matter what you think only what your actions are, sometimes the action might only be words, and the right words at the right time can be incredibly impacting and powerful. However words and even worse thoughts can be traps, they make you think that they are important and they have gravitas and presence, when they are mere ghosts, possibilities of what could be, they are capable of horrendous distraction, they suck you down into their own internal logic, they become more real than the little simple life you are living, and why live in the real world when there are so many worlds in your head. The only kiss that can waken you is the one you give to yourself, by facing reality, pursuing the truth of you and the world that you live in, you do so by reaching out in anyway you can, by any means necessary, you say yes to the world, you invite the world into your world, what you want, feel, what thoughts you think will be of service to other and yourself, and reality will punch you in the face and laugh at you, and if you are lucky you will get the joke.
And there is a joke, but it takes a lifetime to tell, that is why we are given a sense of humour, to find the joke and the opportunity to experience first through all the little jokes that life sends you. Every time you laugh you remove a small pieces of trauma from you life, if you do not remember the last time you laughed, it can only mean that you have failed to take the action that allows trauma and emotion to pass through you. I take every chance I get to laugh, I have no standards or shame, if something makes me laugh I embrace it, it can be Canadian Hicks from Letterkenny, silly cartoons or Shakespeare. I take the action to move towards laughter in whichever form it may take.
Though a laugh which is shared with a friend or provoked in a stranger is a gift that benefits all, and the stranger you are, the easier it is to see the unexpected connection that surprises and makes people smile. It is one area in which the truly odd can excel if they can stop wanting to be respected for their ideas and character, to be loved for who they are, and the real secret is that we are all strange in our own special and unique way, we all have a joke to tell and share. And the most meaningful action that you can take is to seek out that special joke that someone has to share, but that requires surrendering your ego, your want for the centre stage, to be the special one that is the star, and instead it needs the action of listening, being presence to what is actually being said, with your voice and bod, you have to be physically presence and not lost in those fantasies of yours.
That is why you must return to actions, the action that you are taking now, in this moment, this is the point of contact, these are the moments that change your life, that matter, that rewrite and edit the whole of your life experiences into moments that have meaning, in the moment that they happen. It is only when you turn towards the most honest and open version of yourself that you get to live in reality with what is true, rather than what you wish for, the safe version of your life that you are in control of, where you choose the reaction of others rather than accepting their truth. That is because reality is a conflict between those different wants and needs, you have full responsibility for yours and none for someone else, there is nothing you can do, sometimes you just have to stand by your feelings, trust that they are taking you where you need to be and know that they do not exist in isolation, but you do not get to impose them on other, only to invite them in and give them the time to miss you or for you to stop missing them.
Sometimes the best action might be to do nothing, but there is a world of difference between doing nothing out of fear and love. Love means to give other people freedom, it is not love if you use it as a restriction and collar to control another. However just because you choose the sacrifice of doing nothing in one area, it does not means or excuse doing nothing at all, that way lies madness or at least mild depression, instead use that energy, that want for change for massive action in the other areas of your life. Often someone pours themselves into work when they are grieving, they are do nothing about the lost, so they pour that energy, that wish for their loved one to return which they can do nothing about, into other areas, it does not mean that they do not care, just that they have too much energy and they have an outlet for it, the grief is still there, the
dealing with it just comes later, when they are able to act upon it.
And that is what we all need to do, convert that energy, that limitless energy within you, and convert it into action. We are given that opportunity by life all the time, sometimes in small ways and other in big way, but the invitation is always there, waiting for us, we just need to stop our inaction, we need to stop being stuck and turn downstream into the life we have and not the one that we dream of in the safety of our own minds.
